Making Tough Decisions.
Just the thought of having to make decisions, let alone tough decisions can be overwhelming. Getting out of our beds, deciding to go to work or school, keeping in contact with friends and family, and let’s not forget deciding what to eat every day usually keeps us occupied enough. Having thoughts such as “it’s not fair” or “this is too much” can get in the way of us making the best decisions we need to for ourselves. Decision fatigue is real, and it helps if we have systems in place for easier decision making. I will go over the acronym A.I.R.S to help simplify the process.
The first letter A stands for making choices that Align with our values. Before we can do this, we first must know what our values are. For example, our values can be integrity, honesty, quality relationships, kindness, meaningful work, having a family, etc. I encourage you to first identify your personal values as it will help you when you have to make tough decisions. You can find value lists on google to get started. Once identified then I ask you to think about what aligns with your values when up against a tough decision. For instance, if I value meaningful work and I am asked to do something that is not meaningful then I may decide not to do it.
The next letter is I which stands for Identifying implications. When we have tough decisions to make, we must identify the short- and long-term results of what we chose to do. If others we care about would be harmed from our choice that may give us pause in what we decide. This relates to the next letter which is R that stands for Risk. Similar to identifying the implications, we must understand the risks involved with our choices. Both steps require us to be honest about what we are okay to lose and what we are not. Some losses will have a drastic impact, and some will not. It is for us to decide what we can handle and what we feel is worth it when identifying implications and risks.
The last letter is S for Support. When we are making a tough choice, it is important to know the support we have around us to assist us if needed. Utilizing someone who can comfort us or give us added perspective can make a difference in the outcome of our choice. Seeking support may look different for you depending on your relationships with others but it can be an effective tool when we are struggling to make a difficult decision. I encourage using support wisely and understand that everyone has their own opinions. Be mindful of this and share only what you feel you need to. If you do not have a traditional support system you can find support with a local support group or counselor if needed.
I want you to feel confident in your decision making. It does take time and practice, but you are capable! If additional support is needed, feel free to reach out to us.
Talk soon,
Amanda